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Tuesday, May 16, 2006

I'm stuck.

I have to call to schedule a housecleaner. I am clearly no longer in control.

But I cannot believe how hard this is for me. So much of it is about shame. And I'm frozen. I have looked up the number a zillion times. It is right in front of me. But I can't call. I am too embarrassed. What is that about? I know plenty of people, people I respect, who have housecleaners.

It is completely irrational. 484-1085. How hard is that?


At 1:13 PM, May 16, 2006, Blogger amy said...

No, I understand - I'm the same way. And I feel like I have to actually clean in preparation for the house/apartment cleaner's arrival!

At 1:26 PM, May 16, 2006, Blogger Jennie said...

OK; I did it. I got a machine and had to leave a message, so that was a tad easier. I did feel like I was going to pass out, though. Ugh.

Thanks for your note, Amy.

At 1:37 PM, May 16, 2006, Blogger Dharma said...

It is hard. However I would posit it is more about being in control than out of it. You are taking control by facing the reality of your situation, making decisions and choices based on your assessment, your needs, and your desires.

At 10:57 AM, May 22, 2006, Blogger wen said...

It may feel weird, but alas, it's a good thing. Congrats on making that call.

I've been on both sides. (I've had a messy house and Ihave worked as a housecleaner).

The people I worked with were nonjudgemental. Sometimes we'd laugh at all the expensive or bulk unopened stuff rich people had piled around their giant houses, but really, everyone, especially single mothers and such, got our absolute respect, unless they treated us poorly.

Oh, and one tip: don't assume your cleaner is uneducated or stupid. I was doing my PhD, my partner at the time had her Masters and our boss was a few credits shy of her MFA. :) The people who treated us like we were dumb or criminals, well, we still did a good job, but it was obvious they thought they were "better" and that was hard.

At 11:33 AM, May 22, 2006, Blogger Jennie said...

Thanks, Wen, for the heads-up. I appreciate it.

At 10:09 AM, May 23, 2006, Blogger louisiana swamp rat said...

Wow, how on point this is...I'm agonizing over the same thing right now, I want to hire someone to come and clean windows and baseboards and behind major appliances, and the wife and I are fighting about it - she is ashamed at how filthy everything is, I could care less, because I know we won't do it ourselves. Let me know how it goes.

At 10:48 AM, May 23, 2006, Blogger Jennie said...

That is hard. She comes over tomorrow night. I'll update then.

At 12:54 PM, May 27, 2006, Blogger heather said...

according to your comment, the housekeeper came 3 days ago. update?


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